Not Very ResolvedJanuary 2, 2011
I fell asleep last night thinking about what I want from 2011. I first, and instantly, thought two things:
1) Lose weight. In line with my “Fit By Forty” goal. I have 2 years not only to lose weight, but to keep it off. I want the yo-yo to be over by the time I’m 40. I want to have solid and permanent work out routines and a permanent mind toward fitness: food & exercise. So, this year will require solid work toward that.
2) Draft my resume. I don’t know that I need to do much more than that this year. But I came to this job thinking it was “for a few years.” The “few years” are over, and my time with the firm is not. I really don’t see myself on partner track; I don’t love it enough for that, and I love my family too much. Which means I should be thinking about what’s next. I made it through the economic wasteland, where firms had layoffs and firings left and right. It was a scary time because even the most employable were not getting new jobs. That seems to have passed. This means I can really think about what’s next, and start working toward it.
But I looked at these 2 things I want from the year, and they felt pretty self-centered (MY body, MY career). So I thought a little bit about what I want to do for my family, and my community. Some are more specific than others, so I’m not sure they’re really resolutions, but these are my Early Year Thoughts:
Family (extended): I want to continue to strengthen my relationships wtih my parents and siblings. I don’t want drifting apart as we get older, just because “life got in the way.” I want us to all remain important to each other. And all it really requires is that I pick up the phone. Hell, I can even send my sister a text, like I did on New Year’s Eve: ”Listening to the Police … reminded me of you & the Renault!” [when we were both in high school, and I had a greatest hits tape, and listened to it every time we got in my car - which was often - singing at the top of our lungs]. She called me within minutes, and we just chatted for 20. After most of 2010 being little to no communication between us (a story for another day), this was nice.
Family (home): Things feel good on this front. But I know I should help WD with more around the house – kitchen clean up at night, especially. My abdication of the duties was a relatively slow process, but I think immature of me. Even if it is true that he gets upset if things are done my way instead of his way (which he may interpret as the “wrong” way instead of the “right” way), I can still pitch in. Also, in general, this house just doesn’t stay clean. I do think part of the answer is to do as many others who are in our situation do, and get someone to come in and clean on a semi-regular basis. I think it would help all of us keep our respective areas in better shape in between, and would help for the grime not to collect to the point of frustration.
Community: My time of volunteering and giving to the girls’ (now only Mouse’s) K – 8 elementary school is coming to an end. 2011 will be my last year of it. I’d like to find something new to take its place.
Finances: WD and I would like to have a house fund. We also should have a college fund that does not include the emptying of the 401K and/or pushing the kids to start practice SATs in the 7th grade for scholarship purposes. I have been feeling so paycheck-to-paycheck for the past few years, this has been hard. But I believe the time has come that we have enough wiggle room to come up with some solid plans. This should happen in the first quarter of this year.
Travel: Funny to put this after finances. But I would like to travel both with the girls and alone with WD. Our trip to New Orleans was our first kidless trip in eons, and it was great. We need to do it more. I also really want to be sure that the girls enter adulthood with plenty of memories of the places we went together as a family. There are plenty of foreign and domestic destinations on our list, still … I want them to happen.
So there we go. Plenty to work on. I also just generally hope that 2011 is happy & positive. I was in a snit for a good part of 2010 (work-related, mostly), and would hope that doesn’t repeat itself.