I tried to do a “things I’m grateful for” post on Wednesday. But then Lemon came home from a friend’s house and proceeded to have the usual “I’m leaving for the Middle of the Country tomorrow!” meltdown, and I got distracted. Then yesterday (Thanksgiving), WD and I mostly stayed off our computers. We took the girls to the airport for their 7;15 a.m. flight, and then went back home and into our bed. I slept only fitfully until I knew the girls had landed safely, and then slept HARD until noon. Then we sort of hung around and read books and chatted all afternoon, until our delicious dinner out.
Today, I was up early to meet a friend for a walk, which was good. It was a nice crisp but sunny morning. Now I’m back with my Dragons, and with my laundry and my play producing. I’m talking WD into putting up our holiday lights on our balcony, and we’re thinking about Christmas shopping for the girly-q’s.
Last year, we were relatively obnoxious with the Christmas gift buying. This year, we will not be obnoxious. I found the “Want, Need, Wear, Read” outline over at Mom to the Screaming Masses, and plan to adopt it as my mantra for this year. We will tell the girls that things will be a little more modest this year — but we won’t be quite all the way to austere. Their “wear” will probably be Uggs, and I think Lemon’s “want” will be Harry Potter movies. Not sure yet how many (I haven’t done the shopping) (oh, wait – I just did. The complete set of all 8 movies on Blu-ray is $70. So she’ll get that). But she also wanted a keyboard, but she can’t get both. For “need,” I can’t think of much that they need. (Nice, huh?) I am seriously and without a shred of joking thinking about socks & underwear. Maybe socks, underwear & “extras” (what we call scarves, gloves, hats).
I have less ideas for Mouse.
But that’s my day. Gift-planning, reading, walking. Encouraging light-stringing.
Here’s the partial-post from Wednesday night, exhibiting my partially-formed list of things I’m grateful for. If I had finished, I would have added anecdotes about my friends, my parents, my cats (I do love my cats). At least.
As easy as it may be to wallow in the week following a lay-off, I find myself having a good time, and feeling very, very grateful:
- Last night, I checked in on my 15 year old daughter just before she went to bed, as I usually do. She is 15!! That age where people are supposed to be glum, and supposed to hate their parents. Stuff like that. I offered her a hug, and she took me up on it. The hug lasted a very, very long time. When she was 1, 2, 3, 4, even 5 — thinking about having her on my lap for minutes upon minutes was nothing. It was accepted. But last night’s prolonged hug wasn’t “nothing.” I am grateful for the hugs that I still get.
- Today, Mouse called as she was leaving school at noon (pre-holiday release time). She was thinking of seeing a movie. She was going to have lunch at a friend’s. ”Oh, and hey – mom? A is making me say this: Um, J and I are a thing. As of today. Okay?” J is a boy that I’ve suspected as a possibility for some time, but Mouse has denied it. A is Mouse’s closest friend (since 1st grade!) – the one who insists that she’s my third daughter, who posts on Lemon’s Facebook wall as ‘your other sister’ every day. I am grateful that even when my teenage daughters do NOT want to confide in their mother, I have a relationship with their friends that kicks in. I know this is a lighthearted middle school relationship, but I do truly believe that if there were a problem – a real problem with my girls – the same would hold true.
- My girls are leaving tomorrow early in the morning to visit the Ex in the Middle of the Country. I don’t like this. I like them here. But WD and I are doing what we can to make the holiday special, even without the most special parts of our days. I am grateful for WD. Because he helps to make my days special. He knows what’s hard, and he works to make it better. We are going out to dinner tomorrow night, at a nice restaurant. We are /
(That’s where I stopped.)