Archive for September, 2012


A little bit on fit.

September 29, 2012

My first marriage wasn’t a very good fit.  We fought a lot, we didn’t complement each other well, we had the same weaknesses.  We were unhappy.  We divorced, I got remarried.  It is good.  We are happy.  We fit together well.  Things I hate to do, he loves to do (i.e., cooking, crafts, creating things).  We fit.

Same thing happened this year with my job.  I left a place that always felt like a struggle, where I felt like I was trying to be someone I wasn’t.  Where I couldn’t picture myself there into the future.  And I came to a place where it just — clicked.  The work, the fellow attorneys, the clients, the support staff.  It all just feels like a place I want to be.  A place I can see staying for a long time.  When people decide to run out and get drinks after work, I really WANT to go hang out with these people.  I don’t groan inside and think about how I’m going to have to see this person or that person, and how I won’t have much in common with most of the people.  I can go out to a lunch with other women attorneys and honestly tell them that I plan to (finally) get a tattoo for my 40th birthday, and be peppered with stories about first tattoos, comparisons of various locations, etc.

Here, people ask me what I think, and they listen to my answers and incorporate my thoughts.  They don’t ask as a test or a trap.

I don’t think it was the firm itself, before.  I think it was the chemistry.  I think this is a better place for me.

And I like that I feel like a real lawyer.  I don’t feel like an “associate” – I feel like a lawyer.


Checking In

September 29, 2012

Hi there!

While it is so true that since I started at my new firm (which is getting less and less new as the days go on), I really have a lot less time to blog.  Especially because I won’t violate their policy about not blogging at work.

But every now and then, something happens where I think, “I *really* want to blog about that!”

I don’t remember any of those things, right now, but I know they’ve happened.

But here are a few things that have happened lately:

  1. I am going on my first work trip since I started this job.  I’m leaving on Monday – wanna know where I’m going?  Well, my flight CONNECTS in San Juan, Puerto Rico.  Final destination — St. Thomas.  Yeah, baby!  I have a pretrial conference in federal court, District of St. Thomas.  There are worse things, right?
  2. Mouse is in high school.  She’s playing volleyball, and she’s trying out for the play, and she gave a speech to the whole school last week because she decided to run for student legislature.  Hooray!!  She told me the other day that she almost fell asleep while doing her homework, but then she said to herself, “Harvard! Harvard!  Harvard!” and kept going.  Healthy drive?  Or unhealthy obsession?  (she’s been determined to go to Harvard since she was in 4th grade ….)
  3. Lemon is still doing crew, but switched from coxing to rowing.  I’m pretty pleased with that.  She’s taking the PSAT in a couple of weeks.  She’s taking some AP classes this year.  She seems more focused than ever.
  4. The other night, my kids were hanging out in Mouse’s room before bed.  I heard them declare exhaustion, and then said, “goodnight, sister” and then, “I love you!” and “I love you, too!”   And it made me happy.  The sappy, gushy, glowing from the inside happy.  14 and 16 have been good so far.  Very good.
  5. I don’t produce plays anymore, because of Mouse’s 8th grade graduation.  So I was thinking about looking into local-level politics, rather than transferring my efforts to the high school, but then the high school called, and so now I’m doing some stuff there.  It’s been fun so far.
  6. I am cold in my house.  I refuse to turn on the heat because the air conditioners are still in the windows.  But I’m cold.

So, that’s the quick recap!  I think I’ll be back.  Miss this forum!!